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In this season we shifted into ministry-and-family mode, neglecting our intimacy and failing to work through our issues. This became apparent to me when my pregnant wife came home from a hair appointment with her previously long hair (that I loved) chopped off and replaced with a short mommish haircut. She asked what I thought, and could tell from the look on my face. She had put a mom’s need for convenience before being a wife. She wept. (11)

From Mark Driscoll’s latest book on marriage.  This disgusts me.  Probably one of the most degrading comments I’ve ever heard a man, much less a Christian man, make about his own wife.  I donated my ridiculously long and hormone-thickened hair to cancer survivors WHO HAD NONE after both of my pregnancies and got a “mommish” haircut in each case.  My husband not only admired that move, but he welcomed it, regardless of his preferences for my frakkin’ hairdo.  I’m currently on anti-cancer medications for my RA and some of my hair is falling out.  And, ya know what?  My man would prefer me bald to me in pain.  I guess he’s just a gem that way.

May the God of all things beautiful (including loving wives and mothers and women with short or no hair) be merciful on this man who insists on humiliating his wife first in private, then in print.

PS-I usually don’t comment on a book unless I’ve given the author an opportunity to provide context by reading the whole thing.  Since there’s no way I’m going to read this mess, I thought I’d provide a link to a blog where someone had the stomach to read and review it.